People diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder do not have a sense of known
self or a stable sense of identity. In both a video below and on YouTube and an in
depth audio program available for purchase at, phoenixrisingpublications.ca, Author
and Mental Health Coach and BPD/Life Coach, A.J. Mahari, talks about the lost self in
BPD and the need and search for the lost self and for identity.

Those with Borderline Personality Disorder have to contend with a deep and profoundly pervasive pain that they often aren't even consciously aware of. This pain, at the heart of BPD, is the pain of abandonment. Those diagnosed with BPD living their lives through the protective and narcissistic borderline false self are so busy protecting from this profound and pervasive pain that they actually end up perpetuating it in ways that not only cause them to re-experience it but in ways that keep them stuck in the very pain and suffering that is Borderline Personality Disorder.